Deadlines

It has been said, “if it wasn’t for deadlines nothing would ever get done”. The truth behind deadlines is that they do in fact provide a needed structure that creates a sense of urgency! Assigning a deadline to a task or a goal adds a certain sense of importance and fuels the resolve to get it done! Just uttering the term deadline creates a certain ominous air. Historically the deadline was a line drawn in the sand around a prison. Prisoners were liable to be shot if they crossed that line. They dared not get anywhere close to that line but now ironically, it is a line that we all race towards and take great pride in meeting. The deadline used to relate to life and death and now it relates to a race for time. This certainly speaks to the societal value that time...

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Distraction

The enemy of momentum is distraction – it can stop you dead in your tracks and derail your progress! When you are stuck in the landscape of distraction not only do you loose momentum but the diversion also causes you to loose sight of what it was you were hoping to get to in the first place. Before you know it you start to become discouraged and it becomes harder to get back on tack. When our momentum becomes interrupted, the more absent-minded and less attentive we become to moving forward. Sometimes the distraction hits and takes over like a cross current – it becomes too hard to fight it and we just bob along and let ourselves get carried away. But then again, the thing that prevents you from giving your full attention to something else (this is the definition...

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The Comfort of Routine

As eventful as the holidays are and as much as we look forward to them, by the time the middle of January rolls around we gladly welcome and embrace the comfort of our usual daily activities that form part of our life’s routine. We like, need and even start to crave routine when we don’t have it. This is because we gain comfort in the familiar. The usual goings-on provide us with a sense of grounding. The rhythm of predictability gives us the feeling of order and makes us feel in control. There is, however, a tipping point associated with routine. As time goes on, day after day the predictability starts to become monotonous and boring.  There comes a point when it no longer provides us any comfort and we need a break from our routine. Routine, like many other...

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The Christmas Tree

There is nothing better on a snowy night than to sit by the Christmas tree, all decorated, lit up and twinkling in the night. The reflection from the window of the lights makes it seem like there is another tree out yonder! There is something soothing and comforting about being in the presence of the tree representing rich traditions passed down through the centuries. This started me thinking about the evergreen tree and wondering about its history and how it came to be that we now have it as a main staple in our homes at Christmas.  Throughout history many cultures treasured and worshiped evergreens. It started with the Egyptians, at the arrival of the winter solstice – December 21st. They would bring in green palm leaves into their homes to symbolize life’s...

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Settling In

After the coming and going is over and done with the only thing left to do is settle in! No more rushing about, no more looking for the next place to go, just staying put with where you are and where you have ended up! There is much to be said about hibernating and taking cover. It allows you to rest up for the journeys ahead, as it can help prepare you for the next batch of coming and going! I often wonder why humans don’t hibernate. Hiding away and sleeping through winter sounds very attractive!  But since we are not bears, we have to bear the winter and settle in. Here are two suggestions that we can do to help us snuggle in and get cozy with staying put. First, identify your very own special “hibernation” spot. Get comfy and nuzzle into it.  Whether it is...

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Conversations with Myself

I often have conversations with myself. It is the chit chatter that fills my brain with random thoughts, logical and linear at times, but also circular and nonsense nattering at other times. Sometimes the conversations are on hyper drive and I’d like nothing better than to be able to shut off the banter and have some peace and quiet. Conversations with myself can ensue due to a reaction to what I have seen or what others have said. They can be about ideas, facts or social interactions with others or in reaction to my processing my own thoughts or feelings.  Internal monologue can result in self-discovery through introspection.  It is through the processing of the inner dialogue that self-understanding and growth can flourish. That is the real value and nugget...

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